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5 Tips for Single Parents with Teenagers

5 Tips for Single Parents with Teenagers

Single parents and teenagers – these two words bring to mind the most challenging phases of life. I know because I was raised by a single parent, and not so long ago I was a teenager. I remember the life challenges my own mother encountered as a single parent. Here are 5 tips to help you navigate the ever changing challenges of being a single parent:

Remember you are still a family

Regardless of the circumstances your family is still a family – even if it does not have two parents. There are many single parent families that are emotionally healthy. It is a matter of choice, not luck. They choose to make their families emotionally healthy, fun and one that is filled with positive memories.

Parent Tip #1: Think about the ideals that you want your family to be known for, and write them down. Perhaps make a door hanger or craft that contains symbols of these ideals to remind you of them.

Talk with your teen about their feelings

As you may know, your teen may also be experiencing feelings of loss. Regardless of the age and circumstances, your child may have feelings of sadness or anger or just feeling different than their peers. Allow your son/daughter to talk to about how they are feeling. This will also help the relationship you have with them. If you are concerned about your teenager’s adjustment to the divorce, then I suggest you find a qualified professional counselor to help your teenager.

Parent Tip #2: Look for teachable moments. Those special times when you know your teen is really listening to you, and is engaged, and take advantage of it. Teachable moments are a rarity, so seize the moment. Fina a qualified professional counselor for your teenager to talk with to help adjust to the divorce.

Stay involved

As best you can, continue to be involved in their lives. Show them you are still committed to them despite your stresses. Consistency in your behavior will shout louder than your words.

Parent Tip #3: Attend school functions. Find those things you both have to do anyways throughout the week and do them together. Eat meals together. Go for a morning or evening walk together.

Teach responsibility

Teenagers are usually begging for parents to give them their independence. One of the best ways to teach responsibility is to give them chores to do around the home. Address chores not as something you are nagging them to do, but an opportunity for your teenager to show he/she is responsible to handle more independence.



Parent Tip #4: Start with small responsibilities and then work into more independence with greater responsibilities. For example, you may begin with teaching them to do their own laundry before letting them drive your vehicle.

Live within your means

Parents often incur a great deal of financial debt in order to “care” for their teenagers. They want them to have the right kind of clothes, have their own cars and other “necessities” the teenager says they “need.” This approach is lose-lose for everyone. Teenagers are not taught about proper spending, and the parents’ credit card bills stack up as does their financial stress.

Parent Tip #5: Educate your child on healthy spending habits. If they are of employment age, have them work to earn money to pay for their own “necessities.” Likewise, educate yourself on healthy spending habits.

Single parenting may not be the ideal parenting circumstances. However, it can be done right with children that are happy, confident, and achievers. Each parent can play an essential role in their children’s well being. How about you? Are you struggling being a single parent? Take the reigns of being a single parent to make a difference in the life of your teenager! Do it now before your teenager becomes a young adult.

Tips for Single Parents to get Cheaper Car Insurance Rates for Teens

Tips for Single Parents to get Cheaper Car Insurance Rates for Teens

Tips from the Teen Car Insurance Guide

It’s scary enough when your teenager begins to drive – and as a single parent, it can be a bit tricky to determine where the responsibility lies when it comes to insuring them. Whether your child is living with your former spouse or is away at school, you should talk to your insurance company to determine whose policy your teen should go on.

Here are a few questions to be prepared for when talking with your agent:

  1. Who has custody? – If you’re a single parent, some insurance companies mandate that whoever has custody while the teen is attending school is responsible for the policy. Others suggest that the parent who has the teen a majority of the time should cover them under their policy. Depending on which company your insurance is through, your teen may also need to be named on both parents’ policies.
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  3. Do you and your ex-spouse have the same insurance company? – If you’re a single parent and you and your ex both have auto insurance through the same company, your child may be automatically covered under both policies. This is because some insurance policies define “the insured” as someone related to you by blood, marriage, or adoption who is a resident of your household.
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  5. Who has the best driving history? – As a single parent this can also be a deciding factor in whose policy your child should be covered under. If you or your former spouse have a poor driving record, this could increase the cost of your premium significantly. In this case, it may be best to have the other parent add your teen driver to their policy.
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  7. When does your teen’s coverage need to begin? – Make sure you notify the insurance company at least a few weeks before your teen gets his or her license. Even if you’re still deciding which policy they should be covered under, it’s important to have them covered in the interim – not doing so could cost you quite a bit of money if they’re involved in an accident. Not listing them also gives your insurance company the right to cancel your policy for misrepresentation. Make sure their coverage starts a few days before they’re ready to drive.

After you’ve determined whose policy your teen driver should be covered on, plan a time to talk with your former spouse about coverage options, safety issues, and related costs. Although this may be an uncomfortable conversation, there are many important things you should discuss:

  1. Decide between individual vs. existing policy – Most times, adding a child to your existing policy is best, rather than getting them their own. However, if you or your former spouse has a history of accidents or an overall poor driving record, it might be best to get them an individual policy.
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  3. Check back every six months – When your policy comes up for renewal (usually every six months), take a look at other companies to see if you can get a better rate. At this point, your current company may also give you a loyalty discount if you stay with them.
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  5. Switch the insured person – Some companies let you assign drivers to a specific car. To save money, list your teen as the driver of one of your older cars.
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  7. Increase your deductibles – Single parents might think this tip is a bit scary, but it does save you money. When you add a teenage driver to your policy, consider increasing your deductible. This can significantly lower your premium, so you can use your insurance in the unfortunate event of an accident, rather than on small things that you can pay out of pocket.
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  9. Take your college student off the policy – If your teen driver is away at school without a car, consider taking them off your policy. As a single parent you don’t want to be paying for something that is not needed. Make sure, though, that they won’t drive during a break from school – if they are uncovered and in an accident, you could risk losing a lot of money.
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  11. Don’t buy a new car – For most single parents (for most parents in general) this is not an option for you anyway, but if it is you need to know this: Brand-new cars are much more expensive to insure than older models. If you intend to buy a car for your teen to drive, resist the urge to get something brand-new. Instead, purchase a reliable older car and save a significant amount of money when it comes to insurance.
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  13. Don’t report fender benders – Although insurance companies aren’t a fan of this idea, consider paying for fender benders out of pocket, without reporting it. Even a single accident can raise your premiums, so it may be more cost-effective to you to not report it and instead, pay out-of-pocket.
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  15. Choose a safe car – As a single parent, when choosing a car for your teen to drive, consider something safe – this will not only do the obvious, but will also save you money on car insurance. Sporty cars always cost more to insure, as do larger trucks and SUVs; and single parents don’t need the added expense.
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  17. Safety features are good – Along with choosing a conservative car, look at the safety features as well. Cars with airbags, anti-lock brakes, and automatic seat belts can help make a difference in your insurance premium.
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  19. Car registration – Keep the car registered under the single parent’s name that the insurance is under, instead of the teen. This is a commonly missed factor that can affect insurance rates.
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  21. Drop collision or comprehensive coverage on old cars – If your teen plans to drive an older car, consider dropping the collision and comprehensive insurance. The reason is this: Paying a month premium to maintain these may be much more expensive than paying out-of-pocket in the rare event of an accident.

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