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The Divorce is Over – Now What? New Single Parent Reality

For some, going through a divorce can feel like all your hopes and dreams were just crushed under a huge pile of bricks; while for others it can feel like a pile of bricks was lifted from your back. Either way, moving on as a single parent is a new and sometimes challenging experience. Let’s look at some of the things that might crop up as you start your single parent life.

Feeling Lonely

One of the more challenging aspects of being a single parent is the feeling of being alone. Sometimes being alone can be a positive thing but if you are missing that special connection with another adult then you are not alone. Rather than putting yourself out there in the “market” right away take some time for you. Companionship can be found in many healthy activities such as craft groups, support groups, a bowling team, or anywhere you can make new friends and not feel so alone.

Healing Time

Give yourself some time to heal before dating again. For some, healing can involve learning to love yourselves again, and for others it could be learning to be on your own as a single parent. As much as you may feel like you can never do this alone don’t jump into another relationship until you have proven to yourself that you can. For some this can prove to be a struggle but it is possible.  The only true way to have a healthy relationship with anyone is to be a whole (healed) person before you begin a relationship.

Find Support

Build a support group of friends and family. Choose only those who help you to feel good about yourself. Disconnect from those who put you down or doubt your abilities. You don’t need these people.  And yes, you can tell them.  Simply say that if they don’t have something positive to contribute then you can’t be around them right now. They will either change their ways or move on.  If you find yourself without positive support or just would like more then you can always turn to local church groups in your community. Many larger churches have single parent support groups.

Children Need Healing and Support as Well

Your children need time to adjust to their new normal.  Healing and support is crucial for them as well.  No matter how adjusted you thing you are, think about where your kids are in their adjustment journey before you think about starting a new relationship.  And when they are ready, and you’re thinking about dating, ask yourself:  Will this person be a good influence? How soon should I introduce a new person into my child’s life? How will my child react? These are all valid questions and there is no one correct answer. The best thing to do is to consider these questions and more before you even consider dating.

You Will Adapt and Thrive as a Single Parent if you Allow Yourself

Adjusting to being a single parent is sometimes quite hard. Don’t give up on yourself though. You will adjust, heal, and become a better person/parent for your children.

Sandra Bullock on Being a Single Parent

Sandra Bullock Single ParentCelebrity single parent Sandra Bullock says, Louis is the No. 1 man in her life! Sandra Bullock revealed in a recent interview that she’s quite content being a single mom to son Louis, 3 — but she’s open to playing the field

“If [a relationship] should come along, great. But I feel like I’m not missing anything yet,” she told Entertainment Weekly of being single. “Maybe one day I will. But my son is 3 years old, which is an amazing age. Four is an even better age. So if something happens, great, but if not, I’ve got plenty to do.”

The Oscar winner previously went through a very public breakup in March 2010 when it was revealed that her husband of five years, motorcycle customizer Jesse James, cheated on her with multiple women. Just two months earlier, Bullock brought home her adopted baby boy.

Now, three years after the bombshell, Bullock is making headlines again with her Oscar-buzzed film Gravity, and the several hilarious antics that surfaced while she and costar George Clooney promoted it. In November, the 52-year-old silver fox joked that Bullock tends to drunk dial him at night.

“Yeah, I heard, I heard. You know what? I’m so embarrassed for him because I think he’s showing his vulnerable side,” Bullock joked back to EW. “It’s a booty call. But then he wants the commitment and the marriage and I’m like,’Dude, I don’t have the time.’ And he’s all, ‘But I’m not a one night stand kind of guy.’ Well, then, I can’t.'”

She quipped: “Drunk dialing is what it is, George. I just need an hour of your time.”