Emotions and Energy
Becoming a newly single parent is a time of intense emotional upheaval, and emotions use up a lot of energy. Whether you realize it or not, you can get very unbalanced, energy-wise due to all of the emotional turmoil you are experiencing.
In general, a healthy human being divides their energy between four different areas:
When you’re dealing with divorce those 4 areas experience upheaval and uncertainty.
Emontionally, you feel alienated. No one seems to understand what you’re going through. Your fears are escalated as you wonder what will happen next. And your emotions seem to take over your life.
Spiritually, your faith is shaken as your emotions keep you asking yourself ‘why this is happening?’ (over and over).
Mentally, you find yourself unfocused and forgetful. Your mind gets stuck on all the emotional, ‘if only I had/they had done ________ (fill in the blank) questions.
Physcially, you lack motivation. Your drive or desire to do things dwindles. You feel tired a lot of the time. You don’t know where your energy went.
When you are newly single, the emotional responses to this trauma can cause a huge energy drain. Psycologists say that up to 80% of your energy can be used up by your emotions during this time. That is why even simple tasks can sometimes seem so hard to accomplish. Or why just getting out of bed may seem like a monumental task. This is also why you should allow yourself time to heal a bit before you get into a new relationship.
With time and a desire to move forward, your energy will become more balanced. Finding support through family, friends or a group will help you to adjust to being newly single. Setting short term goals for yourself will also get you on the road to healing and being more balanced.
